So to start this process off right, I did a little research of what it takes to be MOH. It's a big deal, people! I have to fluff. A lot. I had the honor of fulfilling the MOH duties in Rachel's wedding. It was so much fun and I loved every minute of it, even if she did make me sing. But what I learned from the process is that it is an opportunity to love someone in a way that doesn't happen very often.
So here is the official guide to being a MOH:
- Coordinate with the bridesmaids. This could include keeping them informed about fittings, pre-wedding parties, or anything else they need to know. No problem!
- Host a shower with the help of the bridesmaids. This includes planning, setting up, and splitting the costs. Done and done.
- Host, plan, and set up the bachelorette party with the help of the bridesmaids. Absolutely.
- Pay for your wedding day attire. This includes your dress, jewelry, and shoes. The bridal party is responsible for purchasing their own attire; occasionally a very generous and thoughtful bride will purchase these items for you, but don’t bet the farm on it. Darn. I wish I had a farm.
- Help the bride shop for wedding dresses, or at least offer. I am already making appointments.
- Keep the groom’s ring during the wedding ceremony. I am going to need pockets in my dress.
- Arrange the bride’s train at appropriate point in ceremony, if needed. I love to fluff.
- Hold the bride’s bouquet during the ceremony vows. (Be sure to give it back before she trots back up the aisle!) Did they really just say "trots?" Claire doesn't trot.
- Arrange the receiving line after the ceremony, if applicable. It will be like herding cats.
- Sign the marriage license if needed. Easy enough.
- Toast the bride and groom if given an opportunity-this could be at the rehearsal dinner or at the wedding reception. I live for public speaking.
- Help where needed at reception; make sure bride has a chance to eat and drink something. I will follow her around with a Nalgene and a cupcake.
- Dance in the wedding party dance if applicable. Oh, HECK YES! This is awesome on every level. I never realized that I was supposed to be part of a coordinated effort of both rhythm and movement. It's like the favorite parts of my world (dressing up and dancing) are colliding together in one, big, coordinated extravaganza! I cannot wait for this. CANNOT WAIT.
Rehearsals start tonight.